Growing Pains

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
― Anaïs Nin

When we are faced with discomfort, fear, differences, or pain, our reaction is often anger, resentment, blame, or perhaps simply opposition. I am certainly guilty of this. We are, after all, human, and probably none of us is immune.

The next time you find yourself in a situation that puts you outside of your comfort zone, try to see an opportunity for growth, a new (or recurring) life lesson, or a different perspective than you have had in the past. Rather than immediately reacting, pause to consider this simple question:

Is my knee-jerk reaction simply a habit?

In my own life experience, I am trying (again) to retrain my human brain to remove emotion to take a fresh look at a situation with unbias. That can be difficult, especially when years of conditioning tells us a situation is “real.” In truth, our reality is often no more than a habit of thinking. We have the ability to change our way of thinking.

Instead of immediately coming to a conclusion based on my past experience, I can instead invoke free will, wipe the past slate clean, and start over. View a situation as new. I can reflect on the situation and decide how I would like to see the outcome rather than how, as in the past, I would assume it would happen.

Why is this happening? (again)? What part have I played in creating or attracting this? (again)? And, most importantly, perhaps, How can I change this pattern?

Learning from challenging experiences rather than simply “collecting” them allows us to grow and move forward. Just as importantly, our willingness to really examine repeated experiences to find a pattern allows us to break such patterns to create a new outcome.

The Law of Attraction is in action, regardless of whether we consciously use it. It’s so easy for us to get caught up in life and allow our journey to be directed by past experiences or what we’ve witnessed happen with others. We assume we know how it will all play out. We can instead live life on purpose! In other words, set an intention and plan the destination to create a beautiful journey. *You* are the director of your own one-woman or one-man show.

We are all students of life. Every one of us. Always. The question is, do I want to learn and grow, or will I keep repeating the same patterns and be kept behind?

While we are all humans, we are also spiritual beings. We’re on this earth not only to learn lessons, but also to teach. Sometimes the lessons are hard – both as a student and as a teacher.

I often find myself mindlessly going through the same experiences and the same processes in my daily life. And, of course, I keep getting the same outcomes. Duh. Old habits can be hard to break. But when we aren’t getting the results we’d like, new habits are worth making. As I find myself repeating lessons, I have become more and more aware of patterns I want to change.


My Sunday question of the day for myself: Which direction would you like to go?

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